I don't have time to really reply but can you guys hang in there for marrriage until you hit the 20 year mark or is he already retired?
And reserves count too but at a different rate. (H just rejoined the reserves b/c the NAVY gave him a much better deal than the Army -which we had been in for years and years....but navy uniforms look better but now I'll go read up on their ranks..)
Yes you can put stuff in writing and keep them in a different place and you'd both be on the hook for fraud...IF it got out and was interpreted that way OR just say it's a contractual dispute...write it more formally after the bankruptcy and do the DIV later...
I don't know enough of your state's laws OR Bankruptcy so to me, the question is, do you trust your div L?
If so, do what they say and don't obsess so much. Leave the complexities to them as that is what they are there for and you are NOT to trust your h on this. It would only make you sick and crazy and you must be tired of feeling that way by now...and are they YOUR kids together, right?
He's fooling himself if he thinks he does not love them OR he is seriously damaged goods.
Go read up on deatchment honey. You really really need to do that. Don't "think about it"...DO IT. It's long overdue.
take care, Gotta go now, sorry but will post more later...
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
