And yes, I'm very interested in starting something up w/ this 27 year old but it would be unfair to her to do so if I have not resolved my relationship with my wife, right?
Wrong. Completely wrong...
The best way to get over someone is to find someone else.
I always find it fascinating how self righteous a BS becomes when they have a WS.
You have a good looking 27 year old interested in you and you choose to stay in the whoa, poor me, I can't decide what to do with my wife mode.
Your answer all along has been the same. Let your WS think, feel and believe you have moved on. It will be the only thing that will get her to wonder if she ahs screwed up and it is too late, AND you will FINALLY understand what the Gooch has been telling you . It isn't going to happen UNTIL YOU more or less let her think you are kicking her to the curb and moving on down the road.. WITHOUT HER....
IF you really really want her back, then you have to really really let her GO.
