Of course you shouldn't start up something until you've resolved your R with your W. I was just hoping to give you a little incentive to wrap it up already!
No one wants to take your love for your W away. You have to love YOU first, though, and my opinion is that your actions have demonstrated that you do not love yourself. You attach your every emotion to whatever SHE decides to do. You have relinquished all of your power and she knows it (despite your efforts to detach, you clearly haven't,) and that is exactly why she doesn't want you.
Love yourself. Put yourself first and your daughter first-and-a-half. It's the only way anything is going to make sense to her (and to us.)
She would respect you much more if you got a bit of Granny Clampett in ya. Now GIT!
[cue Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive"]
I would bet that as soon as you respect yourself, call her on her BS, and kick her to the gutter, she will try to come scurrying back to you for the scolding that she knows she deserves.
Instead, you have put her on a pedestal. She is bored to tears up there and wants to be put in her place like the naughty girl that she is.
