well, just got off the phone with W. had an amazing talk (by my standards). got her to open up about things that bothered her about me. the important things were things i'd already wrote her about, and i continued to validate her feelings about them.
right before her phone died, which i know it did because i sent a text right away to see if it would go through and it hasn't yet, she brought up she always thought i was cheating on her. i never did. my previous R i had been a "swinger" with my last gf, and it wasn't anything that appealed to me with W. however, my exgf took it upon herself at the beginning of our R to tell my W that i would cheat on her and that i'd never be faithful.
90% excuse, 10% genuine concern i felt as i had never given her any real reason to suspect me of doing so. i always let her view my phone records and i pretty much only went to work without her. so i didn't feel that was a valid complaint. that's also when her phone died.
i feel good about what we talked about. does her venting her frustrations help her past old crap? or will it make it worse for her? i validated every valid point she made and briefly explained how my current outlook is so much different then in the past.
she never got upset or angry during our talk. she sounded genuine when i talked to her. and she sounded like she was removing a huge weight from her shoulders telling me what she did.
