Peace, Don't waste your time and energy thinking that the OP would have the slightest care as to what they've done or what we've endured. I know that the HO in my situation didn't give a care about what she was doing. I look at the two "kids" and that's exactly how they are acting out and think....that sand box has to run empty of sand pretty soon.
Bottom line, don't go there. We will and are seen as the awful people that are spouses had to run from. The best way for them to see just what transpired is to sit back and allow them to feed off of each other and one day, they will self destruct, more so when the money runs out and the good times come to an end.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
