Thanks Puppy! I needed to hear that today! So you and your wife are reconciled? We'll be married 25 years in August (we dated for 4 yrs before that).
Of course I've been spending a lot of time in prayer and have felt convicted that if I take my vows seriously that I shouldn't put a time limit on how long I'm willing to wait for him to work through his MLC. I think he's having a hard time admitting it's a MLC because as he says he's not out chasing after other women half his age or other women period.
Now I know there has to be a healthy timeframe for my own sanity but I think I'm willing to wait at least a year.
He asked me last night if I'd cancelled the counseling appointment (Sunday night he'd said you can go if you want to) and I told him no that I felt like I still needed to go to work on myself.
I hate to see such anger and bitterness in him. He's really stuck in a pity party for himself. I can't change overnight but hopefully he'll give this enough time to see consistent improvements in me and hopefully that will encourage him to do the same.
I think he's struggling with moving out because he feels like our youngest is very vulnerable right now. He did say Sunday the only reason he's still around his because of our sons. However, he did say a few weeks ago that he was afraid of making the wrong decision. I still think he's very mixed up and hasn't really worked through any issues.
Thanks for all your support and counsel Puppy. I really do appreciate it. I know no matter what I'm going to come out of this a much better person!
