hey now, that sounded like a defeated attitude coming from you. I hope your "date" went alright.
Oh no, not defeated at all. Just seeing things clearly. You CAN'T change another person nor figure out their motivation.
My date was fine. My H was who he is and has pretty much always been though he has lost some of his chivalry (I'm his STBXW, doesn't have to impress me)...I had a nice time overall.
I want to get into a space where I am not analyzing and dissecting. It is really sucking the energy out of me. He likes being the center, I'm ok with that in some contexts but I am the star of my own show.
Maybe, I'm just losing interest in this whole "Gee, what does the depressed, miserable, emotionally unavailable, self-centered, erratic WAS want/need from me?"
If I sound defeated, I'm not, I am feeling a sense of stepping into some realm of objective reality. I highly recommend it.
I am still treating him well and doing my thing, this is about who and what I want occupying my brain space.
Frankly, it shouldn't be my WAS or yours.
I am however interested in what is happening with you.
BTW- Your birthday plans sound heavenly, if she's not into it, I'm all over it.
