K4D Rising #2

[MrBond]

Kevin,

I'm going to go against the group and say go ahead and send the message.

I mean, she obviously wants to get back together with you right? She's going out with another guy, introducing him to your D, goes out on her B-Day without acknowledging you.

All those signs show that she is just begging for you to take her back.

And since you've addressed all the issues she had with you in that long list you showed us. You know, the one that I asked if you ever took another look at since you posted. Especially the one about how she felt you were needy and was like another child to her. It's clear that you've shown her you're not needy. I'm sure there are other things on the list that you've taken care of as well.

[EnoughAlready]

I'm with Stuck on this one. Go ahead, Kevin, send the e-mail. And if she doesn't answer right away, call her and send a text, too. You need her to tell you why she didn't finalize the divorce, right?. So ask away!

And if the answer you get is not the one you want, don't believe her, just ask her again tomorrow.

[K4D]

I think it would be a bad idea to send it now. I just wish I knew is all. But I'm not sending it.

Thanks,

Kevin

[PMA_Baby!]

I sometimes wonder if K4D is just some bored teenager from another country screwing with us.

[K4D]

No. I am real. I just have a real hard time not focusing on my W. I read the stuff that FaithfulH gave me and the stuff you all have posted more than once. I just can't get W off my mind.

Kevin

[PMA_Baby!]

Maybe it's time for a shock collar. Whenever you think of her push the button . Hey you could make a game of it with the girls.

Come on Kev! Dig deep. Give her back to God. You have given enough of yourself to her.

PMA

[aliveandkicking]

I think it would be a bad idea to send it now. I just wish I knew is all. But I'm not sending it.

Thanks,

Kevin

Would it help for you to accept that she may not "know" either?

You don't want the answer she would give you today. Trust us. Just keep working on the main issue which per your own words is to learn how to focus on yourself. That is what C is for and what hopefully, we can help you do. You stop thinking about her by replacing those thoughts with other things. You have to fake it for a while and in time, you will do it with ease.

We all relate to the insecurity associated with letting go. You can still love her, care about her, want her back, without obsessing. That is what will have to happen for you to be healthy.

Keep going Kevin, don't allow yourself to sabotage your own hard work.

[MrBond]

That's why you have to GAL to get your mind off of her. I mean, don't you have any other hobbies aside from poker?

What happened to the meetups you were going to? Those sounded positive and then you reverted back to staying home.

[aliveandkicking]

This is deeper than GAL. Wherever you go, there you are...

You have to really work on catching the thoughts and replacing them with new ones. You can't distract yourself enough to avoid the work.

[orangedog]

I don't read your thread very often but perhaps you will understand this:

The parable of The Rescue (unofficial version).

Ch. 3

1. Now there once was a man in his house. A might storm arose in the land and threatened to engulf the man in his house.

2. The storm waters rose and the winds smite the house. The man waiteth at the window for the Lord to rescue him. A rescue boat arrived and the man in orange rescue garb shouted unto him. "Come with me. I am here to save you." 3. But the man replied, "No. I shall wait. The Lord will provide".

4. The storm waters rose and the man waiteth on the roof for the Lord to rescue him. A second rescue boat arrived and the man in orange rescue garb shouted unto him. "Come with me. I am here to save you. The storm is worse. We must go." 5. But again the man replied, "No. I shall wait. The Lord will provide."

6. Now the storm was in the darkest hour. The winds wailed and the waters pounded upon the house. The man climbed upon the chimney and held with all his might. 7. A rescue helicopter appeared through the darkness and through the loudspeaker a voice shouted unto him. "Come with us. We are here to save you. Grab the rope and climb aboard. This is your last chance and we will not come again." 8. Lastly the man replied, "No. I shall wait. The Lord will provide."

9. The man waketh in Heaven and before him stood St. Peter. The man asked, "Why am I here? I prayed for the Lord to provide and waited for him. Why did the Lord forsake me?" 10. St. Peter replied, "Why are you here, indeed? For the Lord hath sent two rescue boats and a helicopter to save you!"