Joshua, I would want to know up front what she wants to "talk" about. I say that because I was led to the slaughter by my h when I agreed to meet him for lunch. It was just another rejection and I don't know why he bothered. Well, yes I do....my h loves to inflict pain.
To me, unless she wants to come home, I just wouldn't bother. You don't have kids and I would go with FightingFit's method. Don't allow your w to wean herself away from you. Stop letting her call the shots.
