Prematurely called divorce busted, worse now

[MrBond]

I think we all go through that dread of seeing the person who we formerly loved so much, change into Mr./Mrs. Hyde. It's like living with the Hulk where if you say the wrong thing, they transform into this grotesque human being.

You say that you're depressed about the success stories you read. If you look at them carefully, they all have 2 things in common. Time and patience. The process takes a long time. Some longer than others. Which is why you need the second thing...patience.

We all have that anxiety especially when there is an other person involved.

There's another option for you rather than just accusing her of seeing this other guy. And before you debate that, mark my words, that is how she's going to see it. She's going to see it as a direct attack at her whether it's true or not. Is there any way you can get involved with what she's doing without making it look like you're in her business? If she doesn't offer up any information, stay consistent in asking how things are going and really engage. Kind of like when you're first dating someone, you try to find out everything you can about them when you're talking to them.

Get that interest in her while you're detaching and GAL. After all, you want her to find out that your life is interesting too.