I pretty much agree with these two fine upstanding young ladies.
Our ex's or stbx's or mlc'ers or abcde'ers.
Do not want to hear they have problems from anyone. Deep down I think they have a clue that they are not right, but many things stand in the way for them to come to that realization. Denial, fear, pride whatever it may be.
It will fall on deaf ears and actually most likely be projected back at you in one way, shape, or form.
OP's are all jacked up too, yes they are just as broke.