That's an appropriate name in a case like yours b/c it feels as if you are riding a storm out. I know what you are talking about in the MR, only in our case it was me who wanted to leave. Let me encourage you not to give up and do allow whatever time he needs. It took me so long to finally get to the place I felt better toward my H. It does take baby steps, and you are going about it the right way.
I think women have to be careful not to smother their H's when they feel insecure in the R. We can make them feel smothered by waiting on them hand & foot, constantly asking them if they need anything, complimenting them too often, and of course.....physically touching them & hanging all over them. That's the last thing he wants. As long as you can act "foot lose and fancy free" and try to keep things in a fun & light mood, then it will go better. You probably know all the things "not" to do if you've been reading very much on the board, but in case you don't.....I actually have a list of "Do & Don'ts" that I have given folks as a quick guide to help them remember. My H and I had to find "friendly ground" before we could move any further in the R, so don't think you aren't making progress if you can reach the goal of "friends".
Take Care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
