@ Now mind you, her "plan" -- and the air quotes are deliberate -- was to keep the D secret in her mind while pursuing Signore Schmuckatelli, and I finished my (now 5 months behind schedule) book. [Person, you're mind-reading! No -- that's what she told me.]
Her friends -- including 2 who were in our wedding party (nice) -- would know. A couple co-workers -- both of whom regularly saw me (nice) -- would know. (About the D and Signore Schmuckatelli.) She would know.
Of course, I wouldn't know.
She doesn't get how that hurts, either, incidentally. How the idea that she'd let me be ignorant, thinking I was married, would be hurtful to a person -- let alone this Person.
Absolutely rotten behavior!
Unfortunately I know at sitch going on in real world where a WAS is in a fling and the LBS doesn't know yet. Presumably it's to protect the LBS. It makes me angry at this WAS and feeling bad for the LBS.
I sure don't want to be that guy but deep down I accept the possibility is always there that something like this could happen to me. I can't burn the thought energy to go there right now.
I feel it's really chicken sh of the WAS not to face up and be honest about what's going on in their own life. It's fear of disapproval, fear of defending themselves, fear of their own guilt.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
