The adventure continues--the saga goes on

[AFWAW]

John,
Everyone struggles...that is why you come here for advise and to bounce your thoughts off of others who have been where you are at...otherwise you will continue to make the same mistakes.

Have you identified the OM? Is you wife still saying she made it up? If so, do you believe her? Why?

Lawyer? Do not discuss this with your W. Bills beign paid and hopefully ahead a few months with some savings? Those kind of things...

Take care

I think I have identified but as you know I want to be sure he is the right one as you know how damaging that could be if one was falsely accused. The wife is still paying the bills and still providing child support. She seems to constantly waffle about her intentions. Last week she seemed inclined to work things out and this week she's making excuses to justify her actions which leads me to believe that she is leaning the other way now. I've been loosely following Gucci's advice which I still read and review weekly about mirroring her actions-i.e. backing off equal distance when she backs off. I do find myself becoming over anxious when she makes moves towards me and I'm sure she can sense it. It is difficult for me to not wear my emotions on my sleeve still.