I can't thank you all enough!!!! I really thought I should just give up!!!! Don't want to by any means, but it is so damn hard!! I love him soooo much and just don't get any of this!!!
K, I have a son from a previous M. My H has raised him for the past 13 1/2yrs. That's why you probably got confused.
See everyone here, my H didn't bother with him at all after he left! But I told my S it wasn't because he didn't love him it was because he was ill and was taking D because he felt he had to take her to visit when he was living with his parents due to her age and to prove that he was a good father. My S is 18, and he is soooo angry because of him doing this to me and wants nothing to do with him now!
My questions is.....how do you do Dbusting when there is NO contact from him??? I have been on that site One Day and read the books and boy did I mess up big time in the beginning!!!
I pleaded, begged, everything you're not suppose to do!!!
So when he called in May I decided to start not answering the phone. It was the beginning of May but after the hearing for visitation with our D I have not heard a word except our D getting the grad card in the mail with no address or phone number. Don't know when he changed his number but I tried to get a hold of him because he had our D's dress at his apartment or at his parents and the number was changed.
I do have an address but just pretending I don't have it. It was on the court papers that he had to sign when his lawyer dropped him.
Is this the space and time he needs??? He hates to be alone and he has been in his own place now for over 7 weeks!!! This is what I don't get!!!
He did the same thing 12yrs. ago, but lived with his sister and came begging back after 3 months!!!
I know I have to GAL, but it is really hard with working one full time job and a part time one!!!
Jon, I don't know how to do that. Can you help me post the main thread?
Also thought about spending the money to call a coach but I guess there is NO reason too since we have NO contact at all. What does everyone here think????? Please everyone, I'm begging you to be here for me and want to thank all of you for everything!!!!
