So by not being honest and open about what you are doing, you are trying to control me and taking away my freedom to act.
Responding to my own post here (I know, bad form , but this topic hit a hot button and got me worked up...)
The line I get whenever I catch my W at a lie, or discover her doing something secretively, or when she doesn't want to tell me what she is thinking is "I didn't want to tell you because I knew you'd get angry. See, your angry, so I was right not to tell you"
And now I finally understand why this makes me so angry. It's not what she is doing - I normally get over that quickly. It's also not the lie itself - although it takes me longer to get over that. It's the infuriating fact that she wants to be able to do something that she "knows" will make me angry, without me having the right to decide whether or not to get angry about it.
It's all about control and respect.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
, but this topic hit a hot button and got me worked up...)
