I completely agree but know that it takes time to get there. But mdoodles, almostdone is absolutey right. We are too good for these men and we spend so much time and energy on them that its crazy. I know you feel like he's all you want and I felt that way too, for 6 years. But its like what I told H when he asked me if i love my new friend, and believe me there is no way I can entertain "love" in my life right now - I have to get over the lack of trust I have in men first. But anyway, I told H that I love ME!!!! And its true. when you get to the place where you feel that you no longer want their drama to dictate your life, its invigorating, you feel so much better/stronger. Get above the fray. Feel powerful. You control this, not him. Another thing I told H this week when he talked about what he will do to make us work, I asked him to do things to make himself happy, to get the life he wants and then I will decide if it fits in my life plan. And its true, we have the power here to decide if we will allow their crap to be a part of our life. I don't know where this mental 180 came for me, but I think its once I decided to do the sep agreement things changed mentally for me and then I had the June deadline already in my head too. So mdoodles, I know it takes time but girl you have to take back control of this situation. Take back control of YOU. You decide if you will bring your H back into YOUR life, not he decides if he will mess up and then come back in. Good luck and time is a great healer.
