Thanks kassie...it's not what I want but I have no choice so i've accepted it. If she came to me tomorrow and said anything that made me think she had doubts I'd be open to her. I would never take this stance to push her buttons or as some sort of a test. I want my M but I think it's time to move on. I'll always love and respect her but like I said I think it's time.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Like I said, the D is for your sanity. It can always be changed later if needed.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Sent an email to W this morning asking to meet next week to discuss the D...Thought it would be a good time since the kids will be with in laws. Haven't heard back yet but no big surprise she doesn't check her mail that often. This will be the first time we've sat down in person to discuss D every other time it's been impromptu over the phone and turns into a big fight.
I hate doing this but it feels like I FINALLY have some control I'm not just sitting around waiting and wondering what's going to happen...
I did catch myself thinking,a little maybe this will turn her around, make her think a little harder, with me wanting to initiate the talk and moving forward...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I didn't like insisting on a S, but once done, I did feel much better to have some control over the sitch. Being in control of what I could, allowed me to make better decisions for myself. It was such a relief.
Weird still no response to the email about meeting next week...I know she read it (I do read receipt on all my email) so I don't know if I should say anything. I guess waiting is the best action...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
No, don't say anything yet. Give it a few days at least then ask in person.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
