Brand New w/ an Initiation Problem

[The Wifey]

Lamb, You might also try The Five Love Languages. I am reading it now. Your love language is probably physical touch. Your H's might be acts of service.

In a healthy M you should certainly be able to give your partner feedback on your lovemaking, but it HAS to be done in a very positive way. As in, I really love what you are doing right now. Could you touch right there longer? Could you be gentler, or rougher or use your tongue there... A direct criticism will only put a wet blanket on any desire there is.


My H unfortunately has ED, so quick or slow - it isn't happening at all. Very much part of our problem right now.