Wifey, Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate the kindness I have found on this board even in the day I've been here. I've been almost embarrassed about posting b/c I think I've been belittling the significance of the problem.
My husband has not has his testosterone checked b/c as far as I can tell, it wasn't a sex drive issue. He really is interested in sex almost every time I initiate and I also know that he looks at porn. So I guess I assumed that it was an initiation / intimacy problem.
The part that has been eating away at me is that I am often not that satisfied w/ the duration of our ML but have never let him know that because of how sensitive an issue it is. You can't just tell a man "You're too quick in bed ... oh and foreplay is like an eternity and then when we actually do it, it is for too short of a time." Can you???
I can accept a difference in sex drive if that is the case. I wish and hope that I am the one w/ the LD because I'm willing to ML anytime so long as he's interested and takes initiative.
My husband is a very bottle-it-up type of person. He would not tell me if he wasn't happy. But the littlest things make him happy like a meal when he comes home or a kiss. So I just try to keep those things coming to ensure that he is happy ... and I wouldn't know if he wasn't. It is kind of like a guessing game with him.
I don't think you are out of your mind re: your book suggestion. I will definitely take a look at it. If nothing else, it will improve my relationship with my dog. ;-)
