Should OP know the truth?

[peacetoday]

Hi
I reflected on this after reading another persons thread
And In Yoga I wondered?
Should the OP Know the path we have walked for the past few years?

I wondered why should the OP Have the LUXERY of walking away with our spouses, sometimes creating real relationships or M with them and never knowing the real truth??

The destruction they were part of

the pains we have endured
the lies we were told
the nights we spent waiting up till 5 am for WAS to get home( from OW)
the sleepless night
the weight loss
the childrens tears
our tears
our familes burdens
the financial ruin
years of therapy, reflection on our M, amends to our spouses
everything we went thru ( in short)

Not to place Guilt-- BUT I believe to shed truth and light--
they can walk away with our H, but let them walk with the full truth of the A and what it created for everyone...not into la la land like it was just all OK and everyone was fine!

I have to give this more thought
I know DB would say do Not send letter
But, I would like your individual OPINIONS on this
this is not to get H back or hurt them or break them up
this is for closure
I would hate to end this with everyone still believing it was all ok

any thoughts appreciated..
peace