Ok, so he is coming home tomorrow after a few days away for work and would like to "talk". We are currently working through asset division, all very friendly and agreeable but charging full steam to two separate households once assets sold.
The catch 22 is that the more we discuss details of forming two households, the friendlier and more relaxed he gets with me. I *think* part of this is that he feels is taking control of his life and this is building his self estem.
I wouldn't mind this for myself, but at this stage we will have to tell our kids which, as other posters know, would destroy them. I still do not think there is someone else in the wings for reasons above, especialy that he doesn't care what location he ends up in.
I am not sure how to play this "talk". It will be about details about when I will be moving out. For the last couple of weeks I have said I want it to be as fast as possible as I do not want to be under the same roof as a husband who has made it clear he not want to be with me. This seems to have got his respect and he has changed his attitude towards me quite a bit, but do I need to keep moving out to maintain this (I really do not want to do this esp with kids involved, but am prepared to)?
We have a wait till a property sells option he might suggest as it would make most sense financially, but I don't know if this would be a backflip for me? I have been really working on the just be friends part around the house a la Sandi (thanks puppy, good reading), so we could be comfortable living under the same roof in general. But he wouldn't have resolved any of his issues, and I don't know if this would make it worse for us in the long run??
What would be a good outcome for me to suggest here??
