i didnt talk to my husband yesterday, kinda weird. my son called him and they spoke, i didnt bother to get on the phone.
That's not a bad thing you know......
Reading through your last several posts, I have noticed that you are way too focused on everything except where that focus needs to be. Sitting and wondering about what if, will tear you apart.
YOU, are letting that happen, and in doing so, you are enabling him to get away with whatever he wants to, cause he sees you , waiting for him, and he knows that you will always be an option for him.
DB'ing is about getting on with YOUR life while your spouse figures things out. You are gonna have to do your part.
You must find some positive in you right now. Maybe instead of saying that you are going to lose your house, think that you are going to get to go pick out a cute little place that you can make all your own.....That is just an example of course.
Things aren't always as they seem, and assuming that his life is perfect right now, well, that isn't always the case.
Get out and live life for you, do the work on you, and find more enjoyment than sorrow.
Detachment is truly a peaceful place for you.
You can still love him from a distance, but it is unhealthy for you to get bogged in his quicksand.
Read the MLC resources at the top of the page, and really understand what you are dealing with. Rational and MLC don't go together very often, so don't try to spin them together....
