I did what we all aren't supposed to do when trying to preserve sanity, I snooped. The trails are pretty long. I had not found all of them post discovery and I may still find more if I look. I have to agree, if she refuses to work on the marriage, she's still out looking. Not tolerable.
On a positive side, there has been far less conflict in the house this week. She has been more transparent and a lot more dialogue has been initiated by her. None of it OR related. Mostly her and her needs.
I am well aware that I haven't even found the woods yet. I struggle with letting things slide for a week and taking care of myself as I have a strong urge to do exactly what robx suggests. I suppose I should wait until my 2nd DB session and 1st marriage counseling session.
