Had enough......

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

Yeah! Good for you.

I know what you mean about feeling empowered by purchasing hardware. My H has a nice set of drill bits for his super powered drill and just today I went to Lowe's and bought my own drill bits for my drill (that I already had). I did it thinking (and planning I guess) that I will not have access to his tools when we divorce and that I now need to take care of myself. In hindsight, I didn't think about this at all at the time, it just felt natural...I think that is kind of weird because I am trying to reunite us, but I think, for me at least, I need to act and truly be ok 100% on my own for that to become obvious to him.

Last weekend I drilled and completed a "worm compost bin" from plans I got online, and let me tell you, not only did I totally enjoy the project and learning how to drill something for the first time, but I felt powerful in a whole new way. My mom was in amazement that I made this bin, and that felt great.

I'm finding as I get more and more familar exploring new territory in the huge Lowe's here, my confidence overall is improving. I now want to look up online after I post this the times when some of the local Habitat for Humanity's are meeting because I've always wanted to volunteer for them anyways, and now I have some time and I think the combo of volunteering, doing something I always wanted to, and using power tools would be very, very helpful to me at this point in my life! Lol!

Thanks for sharing your positive experiences and your great attitude here. It is a refreshing perspective and I wish you the best of luck continuing to move forward to better and better things in your life!

PS: I have read a few books about codependency because my H thinks he is "pathalogically oodependent" so good luck to you in taking back your life for yourself. Like the "Runaway Bride", Julia Roberts played in that movie, you'll have to find out how you like your eggs prepared, not someone else's favorite way!