I know in a lot of ways it's good that H is still in the house but when H is still physically affectionate (not just ML, but hugs, holding, etc.), it's almost harder than the cold distance of being separate physically because it's so confusing. Sorry, didn't mean to get back on my sitch.
InLimbo
This is a real interesting perspective and probably points out differneces bewteen men and women. Even though my W shows no affection towards me, I would welcome ANY physical intimacy even if she wasn't emotionally committed. I can see how most women would feel like you do in this situation, however.
I have resolved myself to sticking it out for 'years' if needed. I have a daughter who is a freshman in High School, as well as 3 sons, and I feel like any kind of separation would be tragic for them at these formative ages. I keep thinking about that every time I think things are rough. It would obviously be easier to live with this if there was no prospect of an OM, since I feel like in that case we would have a chance to work on M/R at some point. I had been hoping she would drop OM on her own but it hasn't totally happened, and I feel like we have reached a crisis/inflection point where she will either leave in the next couple of months, or we will slip into a limbo state for a while until she 'wakes up'.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
