John, Wow...although I completly understand why you did that I am not sure I agree with the timing...the potential for disease with four OM is kind of high and with one OM possible multiple times it increases your odds for infection even more. Please be careful...with your relationship so far apart right now you do not want your W to put you in the "casual" group with the other four...you marriage is important and ML is part of that marriage...not a hookup. I am also concerned about your legal position...when you ML after knowing your W has had relationships with OM it gives the apperance to the court that you forgave...I wonder if she did this on purpose after talking to a lawyer...with her thinking of the Army and a commission I wonder if she is trying to save her retirement check...if she makes?...probably Major and doesn't want to pay.
It also weakens you position when going for primary custody and CS. Again, you are there and know what is going on...if you think it is helping then consider...I can tell you that if you do get a STD the ML was not worth it...the pain, embarassment, and stress is horrific...it affects much more of your life than just taking a few pills and all is good...for years.
You seem to know what you want to do...not sure I agree with it but there are many here (PDT) that can advise you...I so much hope it works out for you and your Ds best...
Good job on telling your W to get involved with D. V/R,
