One never knows what doing or not doing a certain thing will bring upon an effect for others?
I did nothing in my situation--basically got
me D--now it could have worked out that way anyway..one never knows

Can you discuss this with IC to get ideas

brainstorm possible outcomes
1) OW breaks it off
2) OW leaves H
3) OW and H break it off and in secret start agan
4) H gets pissed at you...moves
5) OWH and H have it out
there are probably more

have you gone over to infielity
maybe there are some folks there who have tried this approach
who can advise you
I have read about 1 or 2 people here who have done things to break up A and were susessful at R M
both people did strange ways not honest ways
like one was tapping into the email with some fake IDs as OW was overseas and saying things to break it off where H did not get responses
the other was W son told OW to back off
as he was older and troubled and OW got scared
both people said it worked
I have read other posts where Both spouses knew and it did not matter b/c 2 lovers were together
it will be interesting toi see what happens
Pray on it
think it though
ask for help
peace


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow