Kissak, maybe my H would not be home like yours. You have made me think real hard about that. A year is a long time. What does he say now to you? Is he engaged in another affair? Do you honestly feel things have bettered between you and H since she walked away? Does he speak more of reconciling now and not divorce?
First let me say that my H said the same as yours all have..."can you say that you honestly have fought for me?"
After the OW dumped my H, she moved on very quickly and remarries a man she barely knew. He says they dont talk much anymore....dont really believe him, but whatever. After she left he mentioned on several occasions of wanting to come home. That he had been thinking about it. We started talking alot more. We are better friends.
But, the OW has recently walked away from her marriage. Ever since, my H has become more distant and I think the 2 are connected...he says there not. He claims that he just doesnt "need" to talk to me as much anymore. He has not mentioned divorce AT ALL. I think he gets scared when he makes a decision one way or the other. SO, if he stays neutral, he feels better...but that leaves us in limbo.
Over the past month he has stopped talking as much...i wonder if he is talking to someone new, he says he is not though. He hasnt had any relationships with anyone else other than the exOW...
Honestly Im glad that she is gone. She broke up my marriage. I would rather him be with anyone else other than her. But like I said, I always thought he would come back if she werent in the pic...but he hasnt. BUT, its only been less than a year since they broke up...so, I dont know.
Sorry for rambling on your thread MDOODLES. I find alot of similarites in all 3 of our sitchs.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
