confused.....want to do something.....

[judyc]

Orchid, good grief he sounds like a broken record - of my H, that is. I mean, almost exactly the same words - "being on empty", "breaking the cycle break that he feels he has been enacting since we met", "just telling friends we are working things out and living separately"... Pretty much verbatim of what my H said. It is all BS. What, they must all read the same "How to Be An A--hole" manual... (I don't mean to call your H an AH, that was more directed toward my H...)

What if you don't sign anything? In the state in which I live, the D won't go through for 2 years if the LBS doesn't sign. Have you checked the laws in your state? I say do whatever is most advantageous to you. Meanwhile let the R takes its own course.