hmm after a few days of seeing a very cold side of my W she seems to have softened a little. I went by yesterday to give her the spare car key to her car that I had. I wore an all new outfit to kind of go with the fact that I have been working out a lot more since the separation. I really had no time to stick around for chit chat so I thought I would let my actions speak for me on this little visit. She came downstairs when SIL greeted me at the door and was more pleasant and less nervous than usual. This is the 1st time btw when we have seen each other I have managed to be completely cool as a cucumber. Basically I gave her the keys and the SIL asked how I was doing. I gave SIL a "doing well" and proceeded to say goodbye and leave. The little visit ended on a humorous note because as I opened the door to leave there was a cat sitting right there and he tried to get in! I said "No kitty you can't come in their place.. shoo" and it walked away. My W said "Oh yah that cat is really aggressive.. it's pretty funny". So I think she may have been trying to pull for more convo.. instead I laughed and said "Yah he seems like a real scamp! bye bye" and promptly left. So I got in a 'firefly' opportunity like my db coach advised me to do. I mentioned also that w and I have FB and she had been posting pics and talking to old college buddies and basically acting really sassy and immature. Though I haven't been online much her posts have softened too since our anniversary. I am not really sure how to explain that better. I woke up feeling pretty positive today and was beginning to think that maybe there would be some improvement on the horizon. Afterwards, after a bad day at work that all changed but mainly because I was tired and annoyed at co-workers. After a hike I felt more even keeled and after this I am supposed to go out with friends. Day off tomorrow and it's a me day! I look forward to seeing the check with all my retro pay from 2 raises this month. I'll be picking that up tomorrow
