Don't Let Them Eat Cake

[In Limbo]

Puppy and Trying - Thank you so much for coming over!!

My gut tells me that it is not PA. My gut also says that OW has boundary issues and wants to think they are just friends, but knows it's not exactly right but isn't doing anything to stop it. My gut says that H is deluding himself and deep down knows it's more than that for him or he wants it to be. My gut tells me her H needs to know that his W is being pursued.

Fear is what's keeping me from exposing this. I know that it's just one more thing that H will never forgive me for. If she really thinks it's just friends and I expose this, H will be embarassed (as he should be) and ticked about losing her as a friend. But if he's leaving me anyway, what do I really have to lose?

I don't know how to reach her S face to face (short of showing up at his house which would be stalker-ish). I can reach him through Facebook. I was considering an email sent to both her and her H, maybe even copy my H. That way everyone gets the same message. Or is it better to try to reach just OPs H or what? How did you expose it to OPs spouse?

Thanks again for the feedback.