Circling the drain

[needinghope]

We are on a mission to find a counselor who will be a good fit for us. So, we are trying to see as many as possible. Our first C audition was yesterday and it went surprisingly well. No chanting, gargoyles, spells or cloaks, so first impressions were good. She put us both at ease and we actually got to do most of the talking, what a novel idea! She gave each of us a questionnaire to fill out independently. I began it today; it's very extensive. I keep coming across questions that concern his perceptions of me (personality, behaviors, ect.) and that I've heard my husband speak about specifically. There are a lot of them actually. It's exhausting to think about how steep our uphill climb is going to be. We have to bring the questionnaires back for an IC appt. Then, we will meet as a couple for our 2nd time to review the data.

Given what my husband thinks about the depth of our issues, how likely is it that he will commit to working on our M? AND, what level of commitment should I be looking for from him? Right now, the most he can say is that he doesn't want to get divorced. But, he's made it very clear that he will not return to our M as it is right now, and when he left our home he never intended to return. When I read that Cing works only when both people are committed to the M, I begin to think that I'm grasping at straws. Please tell me what you think about all of this. You seem to be wise and grounded, so I really appreciate what you have to say.