Ok - there's was no physical affair. He just talked to his best friend's W to help her with her situation and to talk about our situation. Just talked on the phone. She still wants to get back with her H.
Our oldest son is 18 and the younger one turns 14 on Monday. I know he's concerned about the 14 year old and that's helping him to stay. His view of me right now really hurts my feelings.
My concern is that he's watching for each little mistake he thinks I make to validate things. But I guess if he's doing that then the real truth is that he wants out. I don't know I struggle with just letting things be and let it play out. I infuriate myself sometimes!
There are only 2 possible outcomes: 1) will put our marriage back together in a new improved version 2) he'll move out and we'll get divorced. My plan is to quit beating up on myself when I do something he sees as negative, keep trying to make my positive behavior changes, and really work on not analyzing everything he says and does because I'm driving myself and him nuts with that!
My friend told me today that I need to call her before I take any action - just have her talk me down from the ledge so to speak. Hopefully, that and the counselor can help me keep focused and work on my anxiety. I don't know maybe it's time to talk to the doctor about anxiety medicine.
