N, I'm very happy to read that your neighbor came over and assisted you w/the tree limbs. They can be such a problem!
About your xh and his ow/wife. They aren't as crazy as some and I would also like to catch her w/identity theft!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.