I hear ya' on this one. Up until the day of move out things seemed to be progressing and getting warmer. Then after the move out I got quiet and waited for her to initiate contact. Not much. I wondered, and still wonder, if I'm doing the right thing.
So I give her space. I use my time to work on my own life. But I hear the voices of Robx: don't move! LuckyGirl: if I don't commit then relationship will fade). Others: Give her space and wait for her to come back. And my own thoughts: I need to be independent and to get away from her for a while.
It was easy when we were in the same house but now I don't know for sure what I should be doing or if I'm doing the right thing. Second thoughts burn a lot of energy.
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I think you're doing the right thing. She seems very confused. She wants to love you and connect but there's a bunch of stuff in the way. Retrouvaille is a big step forward.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
