What's it really all about?

[AlexEN]

Lucky,

You wrote:

I don't know how your WAS' can get access to the books, because I doubt your spouses would be receptive to anything like that coming from you. Maybe a friend of a friend...

My WAS looks at ANYTHING ANYONE (even a friend of a friend or a family member) puts in front of her as challenging her or "judging" her and not only digs her heels in, but turns the other way... She walked away from her mother before -- can't stand her, she just "puts up with her" -- because she tried to control her when she was growing up... [Warning: Psychobabble to follow]... But she has become like her mother, trying to control the people around her, all the while projecting that trait on others, most notably on yours truly.

I'm going to do what I want and NO ONE is going to stop me...

And, don't get me wrong, I have my own FOO issues, though many less than before because of the many self- and other-applied 2 X 4s. I've come out of this a better father, and for that I am grateful, I just think her methodology $ucked...

-AlexEN