Something I'm trying to work on none to successfully is not analyzing everything he says and digging for more information. Example - I just talked to him about our plans to take our son and his friend to the lake this weekend. I'm taking a half day of vacation and I wanted to know if he'd be able to leave early. He said I don't know we'll have to talk to L (our son). So immediately I say are you still going to go this weekend? In which he says can we just talk about this at home tonight? I press a little more and he says here we go again. I said I'm sorry I'll talk to you about it tonight at home. UHH!!!!!
I think now that I won't even bring it up tonight? If he goes great if not I'll deal with it myself.
Also I have some things I'd like to say. I feel like everything is on his terms right now. Would it be OK for me to say the following:
- I thought it was good the other not when you brought up a couple of things that were on your mind (the purchase I made for example). And I want to keep commuication open but sometimes I feel like it's only OK to communicate with you when you want to.
- I cannot change overnight nor do I expect you to. We need to cut each other some slack while we're growing and changing.
- I'm trying to work on not over-analyzing everything. I need you to not make assumptions about something I say or behavior you observe. Please keep talking to me - if something is coming across a certain way to you then I need to know. And I want to be comfortable doing the same thing.
I feel like I'm under a microscope and my every action and every word out of mouth is constantly being scrutinized. But I guess he feels that way too.
