allow me to play devil's advocate. When beginning to do the paperwork about visitation I just lost it, cried and cursed at him since I began to realize I wouldnt' have my kids every day, I wouldnt' see them at night or when they woke up. We did agree on 2wks vacation for each parent, that thought also boggled my mind and couldtn being to think how I'd survive without my kids. X can go 5 days in a row without calling or seeing kids, I feel ill on the odd day I can't get call my kids during the 2-3days they stay at their dad's, that's just how us moms are.
I guess she is coming up with excuses to stay with her, the "emotional damage" part is pretty crazy and not true. Anyways those are my 2cents.
I say spell EVERYthing out at the L's, do try do work with her (heavens, how many times will we have to deal with vacations, holidays,etc etc where we'll have to be flexible here and there) and he she starts to go cucko just tell her that since are getting difficult you'll stick to the D papers if she is being unreasonable.
If you haven't yet, think of EVERY holiday and days off the kids get and make sure it's on paper who gets them or if you will be taking turns.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
