Im here and somehow stronger

[lynn08]

Well folks in a matter of 48 hours I will be officially divorced after a long 11 months of separation and nothing has changed.

Although I am still sad at times for the loss of the person I ONCE new and ONCE loved...I now have learned so many lessons and I finally see that life will go on! And I dont need someone like him poisoning my life anyway!

I will be so happy when this drama is over!!

He called bugging me today about finalizing everything and I keep telling him its in his hands, he is the one that filed. I did however, throw in a " I want this over just as much as you, so hurry it along because I have a date this weekend!

To which I received no response of course
I am very aware of rebounding and everyone saying "its too soon" but its just a date for crying out loud! Ive never had single girl/dating time and I could really use the confidence boost! Hes the one that wanted me to move on anyway. Im ready to meet new ppl and have a good time. Sitting alone crying in my house for the last 11 months has done no good, that is for sure

So I will be moving out of our house in a few weeks...just trying to find a roommate.

I gave it my all..i went to a life coach, I ready books, read DR front and back several times, Ive done everything I could..and he has no idea what a Gem he is losing

So Im here to blog my progress to maybe give hope to other ppl that find themselves in my situation...god bless!!

[MrBond]

Hey Jenny,

Sorry to find you here. I guess that jerk of a H of yours didn't wake up in time to find out what a class act he had in front of him this whole time.

Hang tough, you can do it.

My prayers are with you and your future.

{{{stuck}}}

[dday101798]

Hi Jenn, welcome to the other side of the curtain.

Not sure if I covered it much in the other forum, but even after it's all signed, said and done, it's not over. It may be easier for you as it seems there are no kids involved. But I will say, the ride isn't over, yet.

Absolutley, once it's done, go and have fun, afterall you honored your end of the vows, they just failed to mention, until death do you part meant until the death of the ability to uphold those vows. That said, by all means, go have fun, just be careful, as I'm sure you'll hear time and time again.

[lynn08]

Hey Jenny,

Sorry to find you here. I guess that jerk of a H of yours didn't wake up in time to find out what a class act he had in front of him this whole time.

Hang tough, you can do it.

My prayers are with you and your future.

{{{stuck}}}

He stuck!
Thank you so much! I am sorry too...looking back lately i have really started to see that I am better off. I ignored alot of things in the beginning with my H that I just rode off..here I was thinking he was this prince charming and he really never was that good of a person. The "love cloud" was distorting that for me.

I appreciate the compliments. It probably wont be until he is with someone else that he realizes how good he had it with me. His loss, my gain and a chance to start a new life

[lynn08]

Hi Jenn, welcome to the other side of the curtain.

Not sure if I covered it much in the other forum, but even after it's all signed, said and done, it's not over. It may be easier for you as it seems there are no kids involved. But I will say, the ride isn't over, yet.

Absolutley, once it's done, go and have fun, afterall you honored your end of the vows, they just failed to mention, until death do you part meant until the death of the ability to uphold those vows. That said, by all means, go have fun, just be careful, as I'm sure you'll hear time and time again.

Thank you!! I am so very thankful that there were no kids involved. I am sad for the loss of the marriage, and I can only imagine how many bumps ill continue to have with my healing...but I am at a good place right now. I know god will take care of me and it just means he has something bigger and better out there for me too..

Thanks everyone for reading

[cat03]

hi, just make sure you do understand that happiness is in your hands, a boost from someone else is nice, but still make sure you are all healed before you get serious at all. Take care

[dday101798]

hi, just make sure you do understand that happiness is in your hands, a boost from someone else is nice, but still make sure you are all healed before you get serious at all. Take care

Agreed,

Like I said, I spent the night of the D in reflection and thought I let go, and woke up the next day refreshed and ready to re-start life. Adn it was off and running for little over a week, then reality reared it's ugly head and made me realise that there's no escaping the 'old life'. Again, that is most likely as I have kids involved and they are with XW and their life is looking very shakey at best. If that bond weren't forever lasting, then it might be easier, however, I think that the pain and feeling of rejection in losing the M takes a while to get over.

So again, go out and have fun, but don't let yourself get attached or involved for all the reasons. Let it ride and let time do it's thing.

[lynn08]

Thanks everyone for the input, I actually have already been through a divorce once before this...this is my 2nd M, so I know what to expect. I also know that I feel pretty strongly about not getting married again! Lol

I know there will be hard days, but there are things my H has done and I see him in a totally different light. I don't have kids with him so I never have to see him again and that makes it easier. I have felt really good and strong going on 3 weeks or so, I hope it keeps up!

[MrBond]

Good lord. I didn't know this was your second M. And you're so young. You've got all the time in the world to find someone who really rocks your world.

{{{stuck}}}

[dday101798]

Good lord. I didn't know this was your second M. And you're so young. You've got all the time in the world to find someone who really rocks your world.

{{{stuck}}}

Umm yeah, that kind of changes things, lol.

Ditto what stuck said, good luck and excercise extreme caution embarking on new adventures. Geesh, could of given us some pointers.