O - Probably because you have a "big heart". Also, read up on "Co-Dependence". You feel you need to do whatever she tells you. Also, because you're a cop you are trained to CONTROL the situation. Were you controling in your relationship? Its hard to turn it off. Sometimes we don't realize we are being controling. Not by force but maybe by manipulation. I know I was guilty of this. I know a lot of us are. If you have a dominant personality and like things done a certain way then you have a tendency to manipulate your partner to do things that way or you get upset. Who knows but it all comes down to RESPECT. You of all ppl know about this. If the perp doesnt respect your authority then your screwed. Im not a cop but have a lot of friends who are and I used to do security.
If we try CONTROLING our loved ones then we LOSE RESPECT. When did YOU lose her RESPECT??? How did you first gain it? Would fighting for her gain her RESPECT? You know her best.
I agree with Puppy. Get proof and bust the affair if possible. Do it with RESPECT. Do it without making her feel bad. Just say you are doing what's best for the family. Dont be mean or vindictive about it.
