Didn't you say early that intimacy = into-me-see and isn't this the same as being vulnerable?
Yes, see into me. Vunerable means I am dropping my defense mechanism. Takes a lot of time and energy to stay protective and I have a need to protect myself because I am afraid. If I drop my fear and drop my defense mechanism then I am open and much more capable of using my energy now to give instead of defend. When we post here aren't we vunerable? Don't we learn the most when we open up, expand our thoughts and accept feedback? We call them 2x4s here because you opened up and we give harsh feedback, was it intended to hurt or help? What was once viewed as a weapon (2x4) is actually a loving gesture on someone else's part. If I stay defensive I won't learn and I won't feel loved, this is all in my control. Initially this takes trust on my part to be vunerable. Trust is faith in another person. After a while I am not dependent on your actions to be vunerable, trusting and open because it's really my choice. I am responsible for my thoughts, actions and emotions. I am not naive enougth to think all people can be trusted all the time, that is what boundaries and consequences are for. I let myself be vunerable here. I really shared here about myself. I learning and benefitting from others here constantly. It's because the DB community is vunerable, open and loving. Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
