Prematurely called divorce busted, worse now

[Orich]

I didn't confront my wife last night, I was too angry and afraid of what might have happened. We ate dinner as a family, then we took the boys out to ride their bikes around the block a few times. She gave the boys a bath, and when they went to bed at 8, I went to the gym. We barely spoke to each other. I just started the gym a couple of weeks ago. I love it. I get out of the house and go to a place that has nothing to do with her, and it's full of strangers. I don't know why I find that comforting. True, once in a while I'll see a couple working out together and get a little jealous, or I'll see a very attractive woman in tight gym clothes sweating on some machine and get a little frustrated, but they are usually fleeting. I get in my treadmill time and circuit. I can spend up to 2 hours there. Last night, after the workout, I didn't want to go home. However, it was past 10 o'clock, and I have to get up at 4 every morning to go to work, so I did go home. Fortunately, she was sleeping. WHen I came into the room, I accidentally woke her up. All she said was that I could turn on the light if I needed to change for bed. I thanked her, changed, and went to sleep.
This morning, I woke up by the alarm. I looked at the time and thought, ugh, 4am. 2 seconds later, it was like a kick in the chest again: "Oh yeah, my wife doesn't love me."
I need to think about what I am going to say when I confront her. I also need to think about what to do depending on her reaction. If God forbid she confirms it, what do I say or do then? I want to make sure I have everything in order.
A last thought. I have recently spoken to a friend of ours who knows my wife very well. He said that he noticed a change in her personality after her mother and sister-in-law died. I told him everything, and he stated to me that he thought she is troubled, that none of this behavior is normal for her. I certainly agree. I am not ignoring what may very well be, but I am still holding out the hope that, although 1800 texts are inappropriate, this guy is just stroking her ego, just making her feel good while she is upset, and that there has been no physical infidelity. Anything is possible, of course, but my wife and I are true Catholic believers. I don't think she could take that step and actually have a physical affair. Of course, as long as her mind may be screwed up, who knows. I have to be ready for either possibility.
She is going to continue going to therapy. As much as I hate to say it, I hope it works for her no matter what the outcome of our marriage is. I hope it helps us stay together, but I still love her too much to see her screwed up.
Anyway, I am working overtime today, so I won't be home until 8pm. I will tuck the boys into bed and go right to the gym. I won't have to see her today.
I can't believe I am writing that about my wife.