total quarter life mlc

[Sanderika]

I am so amazed that there are women out there willing to have relationships with married men. Right here we have:

In my case the OW has always known about me = 46+ Months Now.

Kissak's sitch = OW hangs around 23+/- Months.

mdoodles sitch = OW 14-36 Months with a married man.

In the past 46 months I have been approached several times, one of the men was married and I told him I would not have a relationship with him for that fact. His wife didn't deserve to have an OW in her life and it certainly would not be me.

These women cannot be real. I mean they cannot really believe that they can ever have a committed relationship with our H's.
Look at the durations they have stayed and what's changed for them....NOTHING!!!!!

mdoodles, I like you have always believed that if the OW were not in the picture my H would have come home a long time ago. The other woman in your sitch is going to run out of time. Your D won't be final before she is given the boot in the a$$ back to Poland.

Kissak, maybe my H would not be home like yours. You have made me think real hard about that. A year is a long time. What does he say now to you? Is he engaged in another affair? Do you honestly feel things have bettered between you and H since she walked away? Does he speak more of reconciling now and not divorce?

You know there is something that keeps them away. I don't think it is the relationship with us because we seem to get along fine....you and yours and me and mine. It's them....they can't see recommitting with us, the problem lies with them. The MLC still has a huge hold on them. Yes, we see glimpses of hope, let's face it it's far less than we would like and it only keeps us in the limbo that we are all so tired of. It's extremely unfair to ourselves that we allow this to be happening in our lives still.

I know there is an answer to this for us all.....

Maybe we are all living in a dilusional fog ourselves. Maybe we need to really give up the fight once and for all.

I have read here so many times that it's only when we really give up and move on with strength and resolve in a new life we have created just for us is when they come rushing back.

I have yet to challenge this theory. I am way to passive to take a real stand. Maybe it's time I do.....

As of today we have 30 days left of our 6 month D postponement to reconcile this marriage. Keep in mind it was all H's idea. What do you all think he will do in court on July 24th @ 9:30am?

See girls....I got cynical. I hate that.

I will go for now.....

Sanderika