Yes, it has been 8 years since my husband of 25 years started an affair with maggot (42 year old coop student at work) who was hitting on him and all his co-workers. The summer our daughter won a prestigious award (he was with maggot in a hotel room, not at our daughter's ceremony) and our 25th anniversary party(which he faked while I had no idea he was in another R). That's kind of the history - just so you know.
So yes, it is me - your Mattel doll. Had some issues with a moderator here and have not been around since Sept. But just wanted to say "hi" and tell you what is up.
I don't hear from my ex anymore. He picks up my disabled son once or twice a month. This is handled through my son's nurses and I don't see or talk to him. He takes Ryan for a ride in his car for an hour. That's it. Ryan has ongoing medical issues and was rushed to hospital again this week. I don't even talk to him about it. His presence would cause more tension and grief. He does nothing to help but does much to cause more angst.
But life is good here for the most part. They say time heals all wounds and wounds all heels. I am approaching early retirement. Sped up a bit by a corrupt employee but some things happen for a reason. I'm rolling with it.
Have been in a new R for 5 years. It goes well. I love him. We are good for each other. I take it for what it is worth but am in no hurry to make it permanent.
Still travelling and enjoying my cottage and my other hobbies.
I'm posting to say hi to old friends. But also to remind the newer posters that it will all get better. Although my opinion is not always the one you want to hear - I honestly believe that you are much better off without a cheating, lying, underachieving spouse. I often wonder why I tried so hard to fix something that was better off left to die its own death. I guess I did it for my kids (Jon & Kate could take a few lessons from me). I live with no regrets. I am responsible for me and for my children. I have learned much about making my own life the best it can be after realizing that it is MY responsibility for my own happiness. I can't count on anyone for that but myself.
So - just saying Hi. And hope someone might benefit from my words of wisdom. Trouble is - often we don't "get it" until we look back. Hindsight is 20/20 they say.