IL, You're hoping there's something you can do to influence H, to work on the M. I know how you feel.
Detachment (emotional, space, and time boundaries) are difficult to practice, because they involve facing difficult emotions and realities. You will detach because you will tire of the frustration of not getting results with your old patterns.
You have good insight into yourself and your actions.
I wonder why H attends MC? You want to work on the M. What does he want? Does he know? I still think IC for you is time better spent, and to hold the MC for now. You need to work on detachment and getting stronger. The MC seems to serve as another way for your M to play out its maladaptive patterns.
The beach was a mistake. You're going to make them. Emotions can pull us in ways that aren't in our best interests.
It's time to experiment with some new behaviors and ways of relating to your H and the world.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
