JR09, Your attitude is fantastic - and admirable. Have you had a chance to read many of Coach's postings here? He has a firm grip on the the idea of detached love - and how much it can help one grow stronger as the possibility of reconciliation stays alive. He also refers to the Stockdale Paradox often...and I think it holds truth for anyone that comes to this board - no matter what position they're in:
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I keep this quote in mind often, and summarize it for myself with the simple phrase, play the cards you are dealt...(though I don't play cards in real life at all)...
I didn't take off my wedding ring until my W finally moved out - but by then I had hit a turning point of my own...and could see that I had managed to love someone that was harmful to me and to my older son. She's a good person -just not the right person for me...that said, it was brutally difficult coming to terms with having her move out and break apart our little family...especially since our son was only 2.
It's good to have men like you on this board...I think that you'll inspire others here to be true to themselves...
