Yeah, for me as well, it's not a dealbreaker. Doing something is a requirement though. So we're both reading After the Affair and doing the exercises with the understanding that if I don't feel like we're getting enough out of it or I need more then we're heading straight for MC.
I think Kalni is right, if they don't want to go you can't make them. I do hope your W realizes she needs some type of help and takes steps toward getting it.
Don't try to mindread her motivations. You'll end up driving yourself crazy. Just try to appreciate the nice gesture and move on.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
