Her conscience is clear; she believes she HAS done everything she can...
You don't really know what she believes...you only know what she has told you.
You need to speak your truth concisely.
In my case, I wish for myself and my H to be able to look back and know that we did everything we could AND given the high success rate of Retrouvaille, if it doesn't work, we can both ease off a little and know that we tried what is considered by many (including judges and MC) as a last resort. No one seems to regret going and communication and understanding are improved.
I don't think this can be presented as just for the kids with any real authenticity. Unless, that is your truth.
