Hello. You will be happy to know that I "lawyer shopped" today. And I found quite a range of opinions and so on. So, no, I am not going with the ex bf to represent me. I was just consulting him about filing in the response form anyways, I had planned (and hoped) that we would both use mediation to settle this in the most inexpensive way possible, but my H is not biting on the mediation, despite the fact he said he wanted to do this in an efficient manner early on. I was supposed to meet with a referred attorney tomorrow, but the referrer just gave me good reason to wait a bit. I have one more referral atty to check out and I hope I really like them and that they give me hope. So many atty's today were telling me that I had to "compromise" and "be realistic" about what I want...I want my husband married to me in our house...that's what I want. Short of that, what I want is the house...he has little to NO equity in it, I just don't want to move yet again and I gave up both my name and my condo for this marriage, it's time he gives up something as well if he wants this divorce so badly!
One attorney really was negative, she made me feel like I was being a greedy b*tch by wanting anything and saying "oh, well with a marriage that short, you're not going to get anything". Needless to say, she will not be getting my business. Like it's MY FAULT how long this marriage lasted or didn't last...I wasn't planning on it being over 3 months ago when he started not talking to me! She was going in from a position of "you've already lost" , which is not what I'm looking from from an attorney at all, plus she kept pressuring me to move out, which didn't seem to make much sense to me.
Me: 36 H: 34 M: 1 yr T: 2 yrs D: filed by H 5/21/09, served 06/08/09, first court date for "maintenance" as well as a plea to restart Marriage Counseling and attend a Marriage workshop 8/24
